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When I find myself on my high horse, I remind my heart that all sin deserves judgment. This means each of us is only saved because of Christ, and each of us can only make right, holy decisions because of the Spirit.  This spiritual understanding applies to all sinners, no matter how minor their record. Thus, emotional cheating is no

The loud, grandiose narcissist is easy to picture. The covert kind is not. Covert narcissist traits tend to hide behind quietness, sensitivity, and even self-deprecation — which is exactly why they are so easily missed. A partner often senses that something is off long before they can name it. Below are nine quiet signs clinicians point to, with a careful

Most advice on how to improve emotional intelligence starts by telling you to be more empathetic, more self-aware, more regulated — worthy goals, but hard to act on directly. There is an earlier, more practical skill underneath all of them, and there is a name for it: emotional literacy. It is the ability to notice what you feel, find the

There is a particular silence to estrangement. Not the noise of a fight — a fight, at least, means someone is still trying — but the quiet of a phone you no longer pick up, a name you scroll past, a chair at the table no one mentions is empty. Searching the estranged meaning usually indicates you might be trying

You’ve seen the headlines and plot lines for every courtroom drama and true crime podcast: “Wife Finally Snaps!” “Husband Loses Control!” “Honeymoon Ends Early with Attempted Murder.” The story is usually told the same way. It focuses on the moment of the violence—because that’s what captures attention. Like slowing down to look at a traffic accident, we’re drawn to the

It’s a common assumption that once we move out, build a career, or start our own families, we have finally “grown up” and left the past behind. Yet, for many, an unexpected comment from a partner or a specific tone of voice from a friend or co-worker can instantly transport them back to the feeling of being a vulnerable child.

Alarmingly, a 2024 Barna Group study discovered that 78 percent of U.S. men (which included 75 percent of Christian men) consume pornography to some extent. Additionally, 44 percent of women watch porn. Pornography is no longer something done in secret or by a few. Now it is something commonly consumed by both men and women in our culture. Statistically, Christians

When Gottman therapists assess relationship health, we are looking for three things above all else: the presence of trust, the presence of commitment, and the absence of contempt. Most articles you’ll read will help you focus on how to strengthen your relationship by focusing your energy on working on these three pillars: especially contempt since research has shown it’s one