For Adults

‘The masters of relationships are masters of repair’ These words of Dr. John Gottman, spoken in his memorable voice and cadence, go with me into every couples therapy session.  I repeat these 8 words to my couples as I teach them the Gottman intervention called The Aftermath of a Fight or Regrettable Incident and as I guide them through the

God wants us to be happy, right? I hear it often in my work with couples. Two people on the brink of divorce, not because of abuse or infidelity, but because the relationship no longer makes them happy. As they describe, the excitement, curiosity, and fun they experienced at the beginning of their relationship are no longer there. Wedding vows

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and receives favor from the Lord.” – Proverbs 18:22 Key Points Proverbs 18:22 celebrates a godly wife as a gift and a sign of the Lord’s favor. A wife is not meant to carry every burden alone, but to be honored as a partner of strength, wisdom, love, and support. Biblical

Some may wonder whether their ministry opportunities have ended once their marriage has ended. God is so gracious as to never waste our pain. He uses what we’ve been through to help us grow, change, and sometimes better help others who are walking through similar struggles. Our stories, both the good and bad, are for his glory! Throughout scripture, we

This year marks the 30th anniversary of the Gottman Institute. Thirty years of research, thousands of scientific observations, and one question that continues to fascinate the community of relational psychology: How do we help couples thrive? What Is the Best Way to Help Couples? I’ve been asking that question since I sat with my first couple in 1992, four years

We know that people think talking about money just leads to fighting about money. So couples avoid discussing it or they do bring up money in the same ineffective ways and the cycle continues. If your spouse (or you) defaults to nagging, controlling, dishonesty, or using guilt to “deal” with your concerns about money, you aren’t really dealing

We all like the idea of community, but do we know how to implement it? We know God created us to be in communion with Him and others. God Himself is a community of Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. The New Testament models community, and the modern church talks about it, but are we doing it? What Is True Community?