A woman shares her concern about the lack of emotional safety in her relationship and her challenge with getting him to understand what she needs from him. The Question to Lisa “I read your article on emotional safety, and it seems to be lacking in my recent relationship. I had been dating a guy on…
When relationship problems pile up—the same arguments on repeat, the growing distance, the exhaustion of trying—it’s natural to wonder if breaking up might be easier than breaking through. But here’s what many couples don’t realize: most relationship problems aren’t actually relationship-enders. They’re relationship-growers, waiting for the right approach. Recent statistics suggest that while the divorce…
Key Takeaways: Mindful Observation: Stress responses are observed with compassionate awareness, creating space for choice rather than reaction. Gratitude Amplification: Cultivating gratitude strengthens positive neural pathways, acting as a powerful buffer against stress and fostering happiness. Integrated Practice: Consistent integration of mindfulness, gratitude, and neuroplasticity techniques enhances emotional regulation and cultivates lasting happiness. Compassionate Self-Acceptance:…
It starts innocently enough—a simple request about taking out the trash or helping with dinner. But somehow, weeks later, you find yourself making the same request again. And again. You might start adding ‘always’ or ‘never’ or communicate criticism in your tone. The small request becomes an unhealthy communication pattern. If you’ve ever felt trapped…
Key Takeaways: Self-awareness is your guide: Understanding your internal patterns is a key to growth. Family of Origin Work is your foundation: Clarity around past experiences illuminates present challenges and is integral to healing. Focus on your emotional health along the way: Cultivating emotional resilience and regulation is essential for a fulfilling life. Try to…
Sometimes the biggest relationship problems are not the loudest. Be most concerned about the issues that go unspoken, especially if conflict avoidance is normal for both partners. Key Takeaways Subtle, consistent negativity or lack of emotional presence is often the “relationship killer” we ignore. Quiet forms of disconnection—like emotional withdrawal, conflict avoidance, or silent treatment—can…
Amy Eden, the auther of “The Kind Self Healing Book”, offers her unique insights into navigating the waters of being in love with an adult child of an alcoholic, or “ACoAs.” Key Takeaways: Adult children of alcoholics (ACoAs) may struggle with trust, fear of abandonment, emotional regulation, and difficulty feeling safe in relationships. Partners of…
A common issue I support people around in my therapy practice is around helping people make changes in how they see themselves. A strong desire to shift out of a negative self concept can be a powerful catalyst for change. Key Takeaways: Working on yourself starts with self-awareness and a willingness to explore emotional patterns….
The words filling the air were kind and encouraging as women trickled into the room for our life group meeting. There were stories from the day, updates on kids and grandkids, and complaints about too much to do and not enough time. When I asked for prayer requests, many ladies easily began sharing the needs…
Just because you have attracted or are in a relationship with a narcissist doesn’t mean you stay that way. There are many ways to empower yourself against their control and manipulation. Set Clear Boundaries. You need to establish what your boundaries are and enforce them consistently. Narcissists will push to see how far they can go….